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Stay Confused: Navigating Growth and the Unknown as a Therapist
Therapists are often drawn to this work because they want to help, to offer clarity, and to make a difference. But the reality of therapy—especially in the early years—is filled with uncertainty. Stay Confused explores how learning to embrace the unknown is not just part of the process but essential for professional and personal growth.
Through interviews with leading therapists—including Jean McLendon, Pauline Boss, Bill Doherty, Shadeen Francis, Sabrina N’Diaye, and Vienna Pharaon—the book shares pivotal moments, the lessons they learned, and the role of mentorship in making peace with the unknown. Their insights reveal that risk, discomfort, and even failure are not obstacles to overcome but an essential part of becoming an effective therapist.
Blending research, reflection, and conversations with leaders in the field, Stay Confused challenges the idea that certainty equals competence and instead invites therapists to lean into ambiguity with curiosity and courage.
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Featured Articles:
Psychotherapy Networker
Escaping the Certainty Trap: How to Value Confusion as a Therapist
Therapy is a profession steeped in uncertainty, join me in my own journey in redefining my relationship to it through interviews with Pauline Boss and Jean McLendon.
Kansas City Relationship Institute Blog
Why is it So Hard to Ask for Help with My Marriage/Relationship?
Explore five common barriers to seeking help, and new ways of thinking about them.How to Talk to Your Partner About Going to Couples Therapy?
Tips for helping you navigate the hard - but meaningful - conversation about starting couples therapy.
